Power Exchange (PX) or Total Power Exchange (TPX) and impact. I have been playing with this dynamic in some form since adolescent. In that time I have taken classes both traditionally in academia; psychology, sociology, neurology, etc and in classes taught by kink luminaries, and mentors in dungeons and private spaces. All the while playing and learning from My mistakes along the way.
I know what I am doing. I know what I want. My boundaries are for My Own safety and peace of mind as much as they are a test for anyone who wants to benefit from My attention. These are the terms and conditions you've agreed to when you chose to engage with Me.
I think men forget that Women like Me, who have been playing and studying the body and mind (psychology) of BDSM for years have little to no need to verify Ourselves. The fact that I am a "Pro" Domme and have this experience would make Me more comfortable if the roles were reversed. Unfortunately, men who are seeking a teacher/FLR/Mistress to serve etc etc tend to have the strangest expectations and worst manners.
It seems that man at best are afraid of a powerful Woman that knows what she wants and at worst aggressively put off and upset by the encounter. I can't tell you how much hate and ignorance I am the recipient of simply because I ask for tributes and gifts.
I am still a Woman. Beautiful. Powerful. Kind and discerning, but nevertheless a Woman who requires proof of your interest and intentions. Gifts and acts of service also happen to be My love languages.
I charge for My time because most men don't respect it (My time/My education/My attention) and by extension My/Myself so it's the easiest boundary to enforce.
Acess to Me will always be limited. I only have so much desire to play with strangers or engage in the community that still largely bias (sexist, puritanical, conservative, etc.) against the Woman in general.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!